We are unable to love another if we do not love ourselves first. There is a reason that airlines say that “In case of a drop in cabin pressure, place your oxygen mask on your face first and then help and assist others with theirs.”
We were taught as a youngster to put others before ourselves or take care of others first than ourselves. And if we thought of putting ourselves first we were described as being “Selfish”. Worry not…by loving yourself first you are not being selfish.